Author: Staff
Date: Dec 18 2022
Date: Dec 18 2022
Divorce is challenging enough, even more so when your soon-to-be ex-husband is a narcissist. Narcissistic personality disorder is defined as being “characterized especially by an exaggerated sense of self-importance, persistent need for admiration, lack of empathy for others, excessive pride in achievements, and snobbish, disdainful or patronizing attitude.” (Source: Merriam-Webster) Dealing with narcissistic behavior is difficult throughout the year, but the holiday season is especially difficult because a narcissist's qualities are intensified, bringing with them a heightened desire for attention, control and confrontation. The Florida Women’s Law Group sympathizes with you if you are dealing with or are divorcing a narcissist this holiday season and we want to share some advice on how to get through the season.
Maintain Your Cool
The nostalgia associated with the season and inevitable trips down memory lane may inevitably trigger a longing to communicate. Even though it could be difficult, it is crucial to refrain from responding to narcissists, especially if you are involved in a contested divorce or custody dispute. This doesn't necessarily imply lying down, but it does mean it’s better to simply ignore the overture and avoid displaying vulnerability, which narcissists feed on.
Take Kindness and Compassionate Expressions with a Grain of Salt
If he is expressing concern for you during the holidays, it's likely that these actions are nothing more than deceitful attempts to elicit a response from you or, in some strange way, exert control. Even while it may appear like a gesture of compassion, keep in mind that a narcissist only has their own interest in mind.
Only Communicate When Necessary
This may seem impossible, especially if you have kids, but limiting communication with a narcissist wherever feasible will benefit you in the long run. Having assisted many clients who have dealt with this personality type, we’ve found that any communication with a narcissist will only lead to further conflict.
Have a Plan in Place
It's important to have a plan in place before the holidays to avoid any unexpected conflict and stress. Be sure to take the time to think through and evaluate your options when it comes to custody arrangements, etc. Many experts advise that you not stay alone at home. It’s OK to still do fun and positive things and make New Year's resolutions. Consider making some new plans and establishing new traditions. It’s not too late to prepare and make it through the holidays without any stress.
See a Mental Health Professional
Your mental health is the priority. Being in an abusive relationship of any capacity is traumatic and it may be appropriate to see a mental health professional to avoid pitfalls and lessen your stress and anxiety. Ultimately, dealing with divorce requires you to become mentally stronger and focus on a healthier life in the future.
Holidays are stressful enough on a normal basis, even when you’re not dealing with divorce. Add to that, the fact that your husband is a narcissist can make it unbearably difficult. Florida Women’s Law Group has the experience and expertise with divorce issues involving narcissists. Since our inception, Florida Women's Law Group has been committed to providing legal services to women. Our team of attorneys is dedicated to helping women protect their rights and achieve justice. Every day, we work hard to ensure that our clients have a voice and are fairly represented. We are here for women, to support women, especially during the holidays.
